This morning we talked to a listener named Megan, and while she was on the phone she told us that she just got out of an abusive relationship.  When I asked her why she was with him in the first place, she said: “A girl has gotta do what a girl has gotta do…and figure it out on her own,” that rationale makes me want to put a bullet in my brain. Megan’s logic is that she has to go through “bad boys,” and have her heart broken before she can find a guy that really values her.

The only thing a “girl’s gotta do” is go to therapy, which is what Megan needs. I asked Megan how her relationship was with her father, and she said it wasn’t that great which brings me to this point: Women who are in these abusive relationships didn’t get the right amount of attention and love from her father, so they stay with these men just to hold on to the scraps they are given.

I don’t understand why more women aren’t in therapy because they love to talk and it’s the perfect outlet. Usually they try to make us guys the therapist, but that’s not something that we are mentally and emotionally capable of doing…and the same goes for guys that do that to women.  That’s what a therapist is for, to help you cope through the difficult moments in your life and be able to live happier.

Corey Haim passed away on March 10th from reasons still not released, but it’s pointing at drug overdose.

Many celebrities have tweeted about his passing, but Corey Feldman (Corey’s best friend), although he appreciated it, he was not happy with those that are mourning him…In an interview with Larry King, he had this to say:

“Where were all these people the last 10 years, the last 15 years, of Corey’s life? Where were all these people to lend a handout, to reach out to him and say, you’re a legend, you’re an amazingly talented wonderful person who’s never really gone out of his way to hurt anyone, other than himself?”

If you’re a drug addict you hurt a lot of people. Anyone who is a family member or a friend of an addict suffer immensely! 

Every time you put a needle in your skin, every time you pick up the bottle, or every time you smoke something you are hurting the people who care about you.

I’m sorry Corey Feldman, but Corey Haim was hurting people! Imagine how his mom must have suffered. If the reports come back and he did in fact die of an overdose, then imagine the pain Corey Haim’s mother must be in to witness her son die in front of her, because he couldn’t handle taking these drugs the right way!

Every time he didn’t create structure while he was sober, he was going out of his way to hurt people. He was negligent and should have known his own time bomb!

I’m really tired of addicts speaking out saying how hard it is for them. There are people out there that have been sober for years now because they are disciplined!

I received this email from Deborah..she was not happy about what I had to say about Maria Cantwell’s alleged affair with a married man. Deborah was mad at the fact that I said men and women are different when it comes to thinking when aroused.

Here is what she said:

BJ,
   
I cannot believe the ignorance you’re spewing this morning about men and women and their control, or lack of control, when in the heat of a sexual situation!  As for Maria Cantwell, I could care less.  If indeed she did have an affair with a married man then that speaks negative volumes about both their characters.  It does NOT however, mean she is more in the wrong than a man who does the same thing.
   
You said you’re not giving me who cheat a free pass, but it’s exactly what you’re doing!  Yes, there is some scientific evidence that men may think pretty stupidly when they’re aroused.  There is NO scientific evidence, however, that they can’t think straight prior to choosing to put themselves into those situations.  So, yes, they would be CHOOSING to make out with a married woman, or cheat on their spouse, or invite that other person back to their hotel room….etc…prior to actually being so aroused that they would be more befuddled than usual. 
   
Also, if we are to believe the extent to which you’re willing to take responsibility and control out of men’s hands when they’re aroused, then we should believe that men shouldn’t be able to hold back and rape should be a foregone conclusion if a woman says no in the heat of the moment.  But men don’t routinely rape a woman simply because they’re aroused.  That’s because a man, although maybe thinking more with his penis than his mind, has a will of his own to make moral choices even when turned on!

As for women, you’ve obviously not known many intimately.  There are many women who make truly irresponsible choices when caught up in the moment.  As a labor nurse, I’ve seen more than a few with unplanned pregnancies, needing emergency contraception or abortions, or needing treatment for sexually transmitted diseases because they were too caught up their own sexual urges to bother with protection.  So, don’t assume that men are the only sex who can let their hormones get the best of them.  Yes, we can be just as stupid as you guys at times!
Deborah

Deborah,
You make some good points, but they may not be valid. Rape is an act of violence, not sex, so there’s something else at play in those situations.

You are right that men choose to put themselves in situations that could turn sexual, so they have to be accountable for not preparing better. Also, women’s desire to have children & be loved can lead them to “get caught up in the moment,” but it’s not arousal. With that said, it doesn’t disprove my point. 

A female politician has no good reason to do something dishonorable like have sex with a married man. Therefore, it does matter when I cast my vote.

If this alleged affair turns out to be true, how can I trust a Senator who doesn’t have the moral fiber to say no to having sex with a married man? Can I trust that she is morally capable of running our state?

Today Steve talked about two mothers’ that should be nominated for mother of the year during his news segment.

Josepha R. Munoz poisoned her infant daughter days after giving birth to her.

I don’t understand why any American would be against a program that would take these kids away, and stop rewarding these idiots that are drug addicts.

A system could be in place when a person is having a baby, they could run their name through a computer to see if they have any drug charges or physiological problems show up!

Instead of giving welfare mom’s money, we shouldn’t give them anything and take that money to examine pregnant women for these problems!

Munoz even admitted prior to giving birth to doing drugs during her pregnancy!

I believe this woman was using government help with this baby! If someone is using my tax money for medical assistance, they should have to be tested for drugs.

Steve also talked about how CPS had to remove seven children from a Centralia home because of unsafe and unhealthy conditions. Steve told us that this 29 year old mother has a history of drug/alcohol abuse and mental issues!

The kids were between the ages 10 months and 12 years, and were found Sunday with a 19 year old babysitter who is a transient and wanted for a burglary charge!

There was garbage and broken glass in the home, and the children hadn’t eaten in since the day before. This is the fourth time this woman has had her children taken away from her.

I can guarantee that she was on government help because she was a drug abuser and probably saw those kids as cash cows to feed her addictions!

I want there to be a system where if you want to have a child, you have to go through a screening process…and if you have drug abuse in your past, you will not be allowed to keep your children, they will be sent off to better homes!

Today we read a sad story about the consequences of irresponsibility with guns, and I hope that a pro-gun advocate or a member of the NRA will step up and say something about this:

Douglas and Tina Croneberger from Tennessee left their .380 caliber semi automatic hand gun unattended on the table after Douglas pulled it out thinking an intruder was trying to break in.

Their 3 year-old daughter (Douglas’s step daughter) Cheyenne picked up the gun and accidently shot herself in the abdomen. She was rushed to the hospital, but unfortunately she died by the time she got there. So far no charges have been filed against either parent.

If you are a pro-gun person, you should be demanding that this guy be put in jail! It is people like this that will make it harder for us to even own a gun and keep it in our homes.

According to the mother, who was in the room as this happened, her 3 year-old daughter picked up the gun thinking it was a toy gun for their Wii. How would the mother know that this was the thought process of the little girl?

Why didn’t she yell at the girl to put it down, or when she realized that Cheyenne was walking around, why didn’t she think to put away the gun?

I’m afraid that all of the wrong people are going to be blamed for this, like the video game industry for example. If we would just punish the morons, responsible people wouldn’t have to deal with it.

A Listener named Anthony wrote this on my Facebook wall…
 
BJ — I’m so tired of hearing this very stupid and misleading ad about the radio performance tax. Could u please explain to people that it is not a tax but rather a fee. We don’t send taxes overseas. Also, do u agree with the part of the ad that says “a pile of Money they don’t need?”. That is crap. Who are we to decide what or how much money people need? What a weak and pathetic ad.
 
Anthony,
You’re right, it is a fee, but as a broadcaster it feels like a tax. For years radio stations have been in great relationship with artists. We promote their songs for free & they let us play them for almost free (we currently do pay royalties). Now, because of the bad economy (which has hit our industry, too) the music biz wants to bilk money from us. They let people hear their best music on the Internet for free to promote the sale of their albums, but the very medium that has been their partner all of these years, they now want to fleece? BTW, the very medium which is still the number one way people discover new music. Microsoft put a radio tuner in the ZUNE mp3 player because of that fact & that’s the same reason iPOD Nano did the same thing. We are the best vehicle to promote music sales. Now they want to charge us for doing that? It won’t affect me much, since I play very little music, but, it’s the principal of it. Musicians better hope this doesn’t pass, because radio hosts like me will show them how effective we can be in NOT helping them sell music.

According to a study, 78% of marriages last up to 5 years.  I am now coming up to my 25th marriage anniversary and I want to know what the percentage of people like me is (couples that have been together for more than 25 years)?  I know I am the massive exception to the rule and that is because my wife and I work really hard at our relationship.

What really surprised me was that only 52% of marriages make it to the 15 year mark. That means if you get married at the age of 20, nearly half of you won’t still be married by the time you are 35!

Love is not a good enough reason to get married, as love is just romantic infatuation at its core. Women are the ones that truly believe in love. Love is just a bunch of endorphins and it affects a person in a similar way taking a drug or doing a big work-out would.

In this day and age there is no reason why a man should even get married, especially in Washington State…a state that always favors a woman in custody battles and things like that.
 
A man would be much happier if he got a prostitute every time he wanted to get sexual satisfaction, it will be cheaper in the long run! There would be no need to pay child support or alimony, just a good hooker that can get that job done!

We as men we just don’t think, and it’s because we are horny that we make bad decisions. When we are horny, it becomes an infatuation, which as a result makes us think that this girl is the greatest thing in the world. It’s ridiculous!

Why are guys getting married when the statistics show that marriage doesn’t last and you can lose so much?

This morning we talked about a study done in the UK stating that 1 in 5 women think their female friend is fat, but they don’t tell them just to avoid problems.

Isn’t it ridiculous that one woman can’t tell another woman the truth about her appearance out of fear that their friend will bite their head off?

Imagine if it was a man, and not just a girlfriend saying this to the heavy woman. God forbid that a man might point out an obvious statement to her. Women have no problem pointing out the physical flaws of a man, but the second that he comes back and mention any of her flaws; she will make it a point to let him know that he is the worst human being on the planet!

I don’t have a problem with treating women a certain way as long as they don’t demand equality…especially in instances like this, where they clearly complain when they are treated like everyone else. 

If there is something about you that makes you unable to handle something that men can handle…then we are not equal, and we will never be equal, so stop pretending that we are.

This, of course, is the whole hypocrisy of the feminist movement! It’s all about them wanting more power than men.

The key is if you are in a monogamous relationship, as a man you have to keep bringing the romance and the excitement, and the woman should try to keep up her looks. We are not expecting for her to look like a super model, but they should try to still look nice. We are physical creatures, that’s how we think and it’s biological!

Just let the guy see that you are working on it, and we will be happy.

Last Friday on the show, Steve reported that a school teacher was shot at the Birney Elementary School in Tacoma where she worked. At first we thought it was a domestic violence situation, as the report stated that the shooter & the victim knew each other, but it turned out that Jennifer Paulson was shot and killed by her stalker Jed Ryan Waits. yes, I said STALKER.

Jennifer & Jed worked together back in college, and Jennifer was the kind of person who was nice to everyone, yet Jed thought it meant something romantic, even though they would only hang out in groups.  Jed was constantly harassing her (phone calls, showing up at places where she was, etc) to the point where she had to file a 2 year restraining order because he would just show up at her work.  Jed was even arrested last Friday for violating that restraining order, but he was let go after paying a $10,000 bail.

This was just an innocent woman who had some wack job following her! How could they let him out when he is violating his restraining order?

Restraining orders are here to protect innocent people and to have a guy like this, who clearly was sick in the head, have the capability to get a gun and shoot this woman in an elementary school is unacceptable.

Governor Gregoire needs to fix the damn system! An innocent woman is now dead because once again, the system has failed us.

Walter Koenig (Chekov from “Star Trek”) and his wife have been going through a nightmare. Their son Andrew (who played “Boner” on Growing Pains) disappeared on February 14th, the last place he was seen was in Vancouver B.C., and yesterday his friends and family searched Stanley Park and sadly found him dead.  Andrew has been battling depression, and based on all of the steps he took before disappearing; it looks like he took his own life.  The Koenig’s held a press conference yesterday with hopes of reaching out to those that are battling depression, what a display of strength by Walter and his wife, my heart goes out to them.

Many people say that suicide is a selfish act, but it isn’t. Some people jump off bridges and block traffic, or go on a mass killing spree and then shoot themselves, but that was not the case in this situation. Andrew felt a lot of pain and he just wanted the pain to go away.

I really hope Andrew isn’t shown in a negative light because of this. He didn’t want to hurt anyone intentionally, it just seemed like he was so low that he couldn’t take it anymore.

If anyone needs any help or advice, before making that final choice, please talk to someone.

The Suicide Help Line 1-800-273-TALK (8255)